Autism & The Holidays
Parents, are you already feeling the stress of the holiday season? Sure, the holidays bring cherished traditions and family memories; but for autistic kids and their families, the holidays can also bring unique challenges the family must navigate during an already stressful season.
Here are some key ways that the holidays may bring added stress to autism families:
Sensory Overload: Many neurodivergent children are highly sensitive to sensory input, which can make crowded gatherings, loud music, and bright decorations overwhelming. If your child is sensitive to certain stimuli, consider creating a sensory-friendly holiday environment. This might mean opting for softer lighting, quieter music, or designating a quiet space for your child to retreat to if things get too overwhelming.
Changes to Routine: Autistic children tend to thrive on routine and sameness. While some changes may be inevitable, try to maintain a semblance of their regular routine as best as you can. This consistency can provide a sense of comfort during this potentially chaotic time. Simple strategies such as brining familiar foods to family gatherings, or offering preferred toys during these times may ease nerves.
Misunderstanding from Family Members: One of the most significant pain points is often the lack of understanding from well-meaning family members. If you feel able, take time to educate your extended family and friends about your child's specific needs and sensitivities. Be open to discussing your child's challenges and what strategies work best for them.
So. How can you look forward to the holidays instead of dreading it?
Manage your Expectations: It's important to remember that holidays don't have to be perfect. Embrace the idea that your celebration may look different from others, and that's okay. Focus on what works best for your child and your family, and don't be afraid to adapt traditions to better suit your unique circumstances.
Say No to Events that Don’t Work for Your Family: Does that late lunch coincide with your toddler’s nap time? Will it be a battle to pull your child away from Christmas morning gifts for that afternoon family gathering? Decide what, if any, holiday traditions work for your family and practice setting limits with family members. Remember, you know your child and your family’s needs better than anyone else.
It’s Okay to Take It Easy: Caring for a neurodivergent child during the holidays can be draining. Make sure to prioritize self-care and ask for help when needed. Reach out to friends and family who are understanding and willing to provide support. You deserve a joyful holiday season too!
Remember, you do not have to do holidays a certain way to appease family members, and you certainly do not have to do holidays a certain way to give your child a great childhood. What's most important is creating a holiday experience that fits your child's specific needs and celebrates the unique qualities that make them who they are.
This holiday season, take the time to embrace your family's individuality and cherish the moments that truly matter. It's the love, acceptance, and understanding that you provide that will make this holiday season special for both you and your neurodivergent child.
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